upgrade_adapter/3 runs before_send callbacks

[nixxquality]

We should change [upgrade_adapter] to call the callback on :upgrade too. We already call it when :chunked and in other scenarios, so it is already the user's responsibility to check the state is something they can deal with. PRs welcome.

Fixes #1308.

[josevalim]

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